Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is a structured approach to couples therapy formulated in the 1980s by Drs. Sue Johnson and Les Greenberg. Grounded in attachment theory, EFT aims to create secure emotional bonds and address issues within relationships by focusing on the emotional experiences and responses of each partner. This therapy is effective not only for couples but also for families and individuals.
Key Principles of EFT
Attachment Theory
EFT is based on the principles of attachment theory, which emphasizes the importance of secure emotional bonds in relationships. It posits that relationship distress is often rooted in fears of abandonment and feelings of insecurity.
Emotional Engagement
The therapy focuses on identifying and expressing underlying emotions. By encouraging partners to share their vulnerable feelings, EFT helps them understand each other’s emotional experiences and create a stronger, more empathetic connection.
Restructuring Interactions
EFT works to change negative patterns of interaction that contribute to relationship distress. By fostering new, positive interactions, partners can develop healthier ways of relating to each other.
Phases of EFT
EFT typically involves three main phases:
1. De-escalation of Negative Cycles
In this phase, the therapist helps the couple identify and understand the negative interaction patterns that lead to conflict. Partners learn to recognize their roles in these cycles and begin to see each other’s vulnerabilities.
2. Changing Interaction Patterns
The focus shifts to fostering new, positive interactions. Partners are encouraged to express their needs and emotions more openly and to respond to each other with empathy and support. This phase aims to create new patterns of emotional responsiveness and connection.
3. Consolidation and Integration
In the final phase, the therapist helps the couple consolidate their new interaction patterns and integrate them into their daily lives. The goal is to ensure that the changes are lasting and that the couple can continue to build a secure emotional bond.
Effectiveness of EFT
Empirical Support
Numerous studies have demonstrated the effectiveness of EFT in improving relationship satisfaction and reducing distress. Research indicates that approximately 70-75% of couples move from distress to recovery, and about 90% show significant improvements.
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Applications
EFT has been successfully applied to a variety of relationship issues, including:
Infidelity: Helping couples rebuild trust and intimacy after betrayal.
Chronic Illness: Supporting couples in coping with the emotional strain of chronic illness.
Parent-Child Relationships: Enhancing emotional bonds within families.
Conclusion: Transforming Relationships with EFT
Emotionally Focused Therapy offers a powerful approach to improving relationship satisfaction and emotional connection. By focusing on underlying emotions and fostering new patterns of interaction, EFT helps couples and families build stronger, more secure bonds.
At Moriel Mental Health (MMH), we are dedicated to providing effective and compassionate therapy services. Our sessions are typically free to most insurance providers, and if you are paying out of pocket, the copay is usually around $20 per session. If you’d like to explore EFT and see how it can benefit your relationships, please contact us to book an appointment. We work all throughout California and are here to support you on your journey towards a healthier and happier relationship. At MMH, we are committed to providing the care and guidance you need.
