The 6 Types of Gaslighting
Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation where the abuser tries to make the victim doubt their own reality, memory, or perceptions. Here are six common types of gaslighting:
1. Withholding
Overview
The abuser pretends not to understand or refuses to listen to the victim's concerns, dismissing their feelings or thoughts.
Example
Statements: "I don't know what you're talking about," or "You're just trying to confuse me."
Sources:
Psychology Today
2. Countering
Overview
The abuser questions the victim’s memory of events, even when the victim remembers them accurately.
Example
Statements: "That never happened," or "You have a bad memory."
Sources:
National Domestic Violence Hotline
3. Trivializing
Overview
The abuser makes the victim's needs or feelings seem unimportant or invalid, minimizing their concerns.
Example
Statements: "You're overreacting," or "You're too sensitive."
Sources:
GoodTherapy
4. Denial
Overview
The abuser outright denies that they ever said or did something, despite clear evidence to the contrary.
Example
Statements: "I never said that," or "You're making that up."
Sources:
Healthline
5. Diverting
Overview
The abuser changes the subject or questions the victim's thoughts to deflect from the issue at hand.
Example
Statements: "That's just your imagination," or "Where did you get that crazy idea?"
Sources:
Verywell Mind
6. Stereotyping
Overview
The abuser uses negative stereotypes about the victim’s identity (e.g., gender, race, age) to manipulate and control them.
Example
Statements: "No one will believe you because you're just a woman," or "You're too old to understand."
Sources:
PsychCentral
Conclusion: Recognizing Gaslighting
Recognizing the different types of gaslighting is the first step toward protecting yourself from this manipulative behavior. If you suspect you are being gaslighted, seeking support from trusted friends, family, or a mental health professional is crucial.
At Moriel Mental Health (MMH), we specialize in helping victims of gaslighting and narcissistic abuse. Our experienced therapists provide compassionate and effective treatment to help you heal and regain control. Please contact us to book an appointment. We work all throughout California and are here to support you.
Sources:
Psychology Today
National Domestic Violence Hotline
GoodTherapy
Healthline
Verywell Mind
PsychCentral
